“Me time”: How much you get depends on many factors, and one of them is you. (Others can include: ages of children, caring for an aging parent or a child/adult who needs more parent time, your mental health, work/school, etc.). So, “How do I find time just for me?” What will your intention be this year?
January 2nd’s quote from my morning reading provides inspiration. This year’s book is pictured below:
“…true identity is found …. in creative activity springing from within… when one loses oneself.” ~ Anne Morrow Lindbergh
Me Time Advice – How to FIND it
Skim this list of ideas which have worked for other clients and see which one or two resonate for you. And instead of “me time” use your own name to feel how important this is, “Sue time” for example.
We all grow in connection with others. First, we need time to grow within ourselves, to know who we are, deeply, honestly, with humility and vulnerability. ~Sue West
The list starts with small amounts of time and works up to longer times. If you don’t get much me time, it’s key to feel what it is like, before creating even more time for yourself. It’s also key to know what to do with your new found time, so more on that in the next section.
- Ask your family for quiet time. 5-10 minutes is a good start.
- Wake up just a few minutes earlier and stay in bed. Very quiet. Don’t wake anyone else.
- Go to bed earlier.
- Put down your phone for 1a few minutes of “me time.”
- Add a buffer for some alone time to appointments. Go early or stay later. You’ll get some alone time, sitting peacefully in the car (no phone). Or get a coffee on your own and sit for a bit.
- Choose an hour, a half day, a full day – whatever feels comfortable and feasible. Make it yours and create a list of what you would want most to do. It doesn’t need to be weekly. Start where it’s comfortable.
- Go through your day and evening in your mind. What could you still do, but not as long as you do?
- What could you move to the prior evening from morning, to have 5 minutes of me time?
- What could you ask your family to do; or what parts of a responsibility could you teach them ?
- Can you arrange your weekdays differently to create the time? Or do something 4 days instead of 5? Is it feasible to ask family to watch the kids or hire a sitter?
- If you have a dog, reframe dog walk or dog play to spending time with yourself. Sometimes, we have to double up until we can see our way through to more.
Me Time – What to DO with it-Reflection questions
- What did you used to do, when you had more available time than you have today?
- For example if you used to enjoy taking a walk for an hour, and currently, that sounds like too much time, when could you create a short walk? Same activity. Less time until you can find more.
- When do you “lose yourself” in an activity?
- Make a written/phone list of possibilities, so that the ideas pull you into creating time for yourself.
- For some people, volunteering to support others, is when they truly “lose themselves.” If that’s you, please still consider finding 5 minutes a day to find something just for you. Maybe it’s thinking as you walk about what makes this volunteering important to you (video at the link).
Could “me time” be an intention for this year? What do you think?
PS We all need an outsider’s perspective sometimes. This is one of those questions – how do I organize my life, so I can create this time?
If that’s your question, I invite you to a no charge 20 minute call to explore working together. 603.765.9267 (cell/text); or email me at Sue@CoachSueWest.com
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