Doesn’t it feel great when you reorganize some “thing” – a junk drawer, your linens, your desk, your mail? It’s cathartic. It’s all under control. You stop thinking about it.
This post is about moving on by using your organizing skills to support you as you emotionally and physically move onto your next chapter.
Reorganize your home and your life/time to reflect the new you.
Reorganize your home and this will bring you out of the fog and overwhelm you’re probably feeling.
Reorganizing creates hope that your life can change.
“Moving on doesn’t necessarily mean moving away from the person you were; it means moving toward the person you`re becoming, towards something and someone closer to your heart.” Kimberly Merritt, Beautiful Living
Control is soothing when we’re in transition
Most of your mental energy goes towards surviving the transition itself.
With great organizing systems supporting you,you’ll have more control over the basics of daily life.
And control’s probably at a premium right now, isn’t it?
You likely don’t have as much control right now in other aspects of your life,whether separated or divorcing.
The systems keep you from worrying about the small stuff in life, which only add to your energy drain.
`When one door closes, another opens;but we often look so long and so regretfully upon the closed door that we do not see the one which has opened for us.` ` Alexander Graham Bell, American inventor
Reorganizing your home reorganizes its energy
You may have negative energy or plain old yucky feelings as you walk through the home you two shared. What is your home saying to you, if it could talk?
Or maybe you’re in a new home and on your own. Starting with a blank slate.
Change it up. Figure out YOUR favorite pieces and use them everywhere you can. Showcase YOU and what brings you good feelings.
Over time, bring in more and more of who you are becoming.
Redecorating is common at this stage. Changing colors and fabrics builds your spirit, your enthusiasm and can dramatically affect your mood.
Reorganization is about how you live effectively.
Now’s the time to reach out; you’ve already got a lot on your mind.
Seek out both an organizing coach and take design classes or seek out a local interiors expert.
When Kathryn and I worked together…
…she had one foot in the previous chapter of her life and a toe dipped into her next chapter. Her goal was to let go of more of her husband’s things, the furniture he liked more than she did, the things she knew she’d never use.
To make her home her own.
We changed the energy in her home, and did some coaching to begin her move forward to her new chapter. Values and needs. Understand what she loved about her life and what she wanted to explore for changes.
Did she know exactly who she was becoming when she started organizing and coaching with me? No. It unfolds over time.
Here is what she did know, which is a place to start:
She knew she was becoming a woman who owned a home by herself. She had choices. She had survived and would do more than survive going forward. She was brave.
And she deserved another chance at her own happiness.
` Though no one can go back and make a brand new start, anyone can start from now and make a brand new ending.” — Author Unknown
So start here as your beginning of a new chapter:
What do you know about what you want?
What do you value most about yourself, your relationships, and how you like to use your time?
Who are you becoming?
What are you aware of, as you reflect on yourself moving through these experiences?