You have a full plate and you’re a little upset that you didn’t see it coming. You’d rather see the “plate too full” train as it’s approaching, and NOT after it’s run over you.
But you wonder: “How did I get here? How did I miss this …. Why didn’t I see this coming … yet again?”
Here are 5 signs your plate is too full. Watch for these and your own signs. If you can figure out the signs in your own life, you can back up the train and be in crisis far less often. What you want is to figure out which of these happened just before you got that big, overwhelming feeling, or had a meltdown, got sick, or fell for no apparent reason.
Read the article and then think about times you’ve been overwhelmed; which signs were there and you didn’t see them? You are now, and that’s progress.
Then to answer the “What’s next, now that I know the signs were there?” return here for my next article. [Or go to any of my social media sites and watch for the article.]
Full Plate – Sign #1
You write an email at work and you leave out words or sentences. And you don’t even notice it. Or you inadvertently copy someone you didn’t mean to put on the message. Ever hit “reply all” by mistake?
Full Plate – Sign #2
You lose things. You can’t find things you rarely misplace. You feel absent-minded.
Full Plate – Sign #3
You find you have to say “No” to people or fun or tasks which you really do want to do. Or you’re saying “Yes” but have so much on your plate you sometimes feel you can’t breathe.
Full Plate – Sign #4
You look at your “to do” list or think about it ALL the time. Your mind won’t stop. Your energy is low.
Full Plate – Sign #5
You have less patience than you usually do. You feel it inside. And maybe a colleague or spouse has mentioned that you’re snapping at people.
What to Do?
These signs are the kinds of things which happen right before you: get sick, completely miss a commitment to someone else, trip and fall, have a temper blowup, a meltdown or a crying jag. When you hit that wall.
Highest priority is to fix the immediate symptoms so that what you ARE doing feels better, more accurate, more pleasant. Get things under control a bit. We need to keep from making the same mistakes. Break the cycle, because this is not the person you are.
- Next, is to figure out why your plate is so full, just for this time. Not for every time it has happened in the past. Just this time.
- Then see if you notice any patterns. When has this happened before and what was going on just before?
- And last, resolve for these lifelong patterns. Why does the cycle keep happening and how do we solve for that.
If you can’t get it 100% figured out by yourself, reach out to someone close to you for another viewpoint or me to help you figure it out with the right questions.
That’s it for this article so you’ll have a little bit of time before my next article to think about your own signs.
p.s. Signs are useful to see before a crisis arrives. They are also useful to noticing clutter building up, before it hits crisis point. If you’d like strategies or support, organizing or working virtually, let me know. 603.554.1948 or Sue@CoachSueWest.com