How has your holiday season been this year? Anything you would have liked more of? Less? I’ve created a set of questions to give you perspective on this season so that you’ll know what you’d like to repeat or do differently next year.
Holidays are partly about organizing the practicalities…. and partly about the emotions, dynamics and communications. So you’ll notice the questions are a mixture of both. Start from either side of the equation but try to deal with both.
Once you’ve answered the questions that make sense for your life, make sure to write down a few notes for yourself; save them on your calendar, or wherever you keep holiday things.
Perspectives on this year
A special memory
- What was your most special memory about this year? What made it so special? How could you have this again next year? Was it the numbers of people involved or who they were? Was it the experience or the place? What you spent? Your attitude? Visualize and revisit this, so get specific.
- How did your schedule feel? Answer with a scale of 1-10 or a metaphor (whirlwind, calm seas, etc.). Either approach will give you perspective. What made your schedule feel this way? And for next year, what would you like to do differently? What would that mean to you if you could do things differently?
Wanting more of/less of
- What have you had enough of? What do you need more of, to make it your best season? Who do you speak with to make this happen? If you were not concerned about the reaction you’ll get, what would you say to start the conversation?
- How could you simplify? Some families share group experiences, or give gift cards when kids reach a particular age, or buy bigger gifts together instead of shopping for multiple gifts. Or travel: how could you organize it differently or spread it out over a longer period of time? Not send out cards, limit recipients, or send out in January? What else could you simplify? Not get rid of, but whittle down, so you have the essence of what is important, just not as much.
No time for
- What did you have no time for this holiday season? How could you have at least a little bit of that next year? Or is there something else you could drop to make room for this?
Ask for what you need
- Did you ask for assistance in getting everything done? If not, what would have made it easier to ask? Do you need to drop things from your list because there is simply too much to manage?
- Who was the toughest person you had to deal with this holiday season? Or the most difficult situation? Did you handle it the way you wanted to? If not, what would you do differently in hindsight; and how can you prevent something similar from happening next year? Is there anyone who could help you with difficult people? Someone who could help you leave the situation? Or practice ahead of time so you can respond the way you would want to?
Use the answers to these questions to create next year’s holiday season.
And you also might consider asking yourself these questions about the rest of your year.
I want my holidays to be about meals and talking around the table, connections and community, naps, laughter and an escape from to do lists and schedules and devices. Where we put a hold on everything and just relax, sometimes together and sometimes alone. Where we enjoy the company of those we love, friends and family alike. Where we express gratitude, appreciation and thankfulness instead of noticing what we don’t have.
Where we slow down, without any guilt for pausing, and genuinely reflect on our year, how we have changed, and on what’s important to us as we roll into the New Year.
And that’s the key question here: what do you want?
If you’d like support, brainstorming or accountability to make changes for next year, please email or call.
Sue@CoachSueWest.com or 603.554.1948