“I need to get my life in order.” “I get so pulled into Facebook, the internet, reading a book … that the world dissolves around me.” “I really thought only 10 minutes had passed, but it was an hour.”
Or maybe you picked up your child or grandchild late, because the conversation you were involved in was so fascinating. Or you wanted to do “just one more thing” at work.
Starter Strategies – Designed to get you started figuring out your own solutions
- Talk to yourself. “Am I doing what I want to be doing right now?”
- Have a clear picture of what’s waiting on you next, or who is. Example: “If I don’t get to playing the piano with my daughter, because I’m still doing this, is that okay?”
- “If it’s out, I’ll remember to do it.” If you say that sometimes, try writing out a note, ideally in a bright color you’ll easily notice. On the note, write your top three things to be done today or your daughter’s name if you’re picking her up somewhere. Or if at work, put her picture right in front of you, as a reminder to pick her up at school.
- If you often say “Oh, I hear what you’re saying,” consider keeping a timer with you wherever you are, a timer with a sound you know you’ll pay attention to. I tried using the sound of ocean waves on my Outlook reminder and I just ignored it. I use the dainty and quiet beeper on my Time Timer and that works like a charm.
- Race yourself: If a little pressure helps you stay focused, use the Stopwatch feature on your phone. Knowing that clock is ticking away so quickly can help. Or race to finish your task, while something else is going on that is timed, i.e., in the two minutes it takes for your cup of tea to warm up, finish up the task you were working on.
- Sometimes self-talk doesn’t work. You don’t or can’t stop to notice when you’re stuck. Try using triggers which are “external,” meaning outside your brain/body: a friend calls you at the time you need to start moving for your next appointment; your Time Timer; blocking access to Facebook after ‘x’ minutes have passed. These will also train your brain so eventually, you’ll do this on your own.
- Time map tracking: For two days, write down what you do about every 1/2 hour. Don’t change your actions; record what’s happening now. The goal: to figure out where the issue is for you.
Some of these are solutions. Some are suggestions to help you become more AWARE of what the issue is. Awareness is where it all has to start, isn’t it.
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