We all know someone who has been told she is a micro manager, or someone who admits he is and doesn’t really want to be that way. It can happen at home and at work. Thinking about yourself and people around you, do any of these questions sound familiar? ?
- I know I need to relax and not engineer and control every detail. But how do I do that and still know things are under control?
- My manager/assistant/web designer told me I need to back off a little. I agree but how do I change?
- I want my family to do more, but the last time I tried, it was a chaotic mess and I couldn’t stand it anymore. I took it all back.
- My business is growing. I’ve got to get some help, but I’m used to doing everything on my own. I know this is the way to grow, though.
- I know my parents aren’t thrilled with moving into this retirement community, but it’s really best.
There are certain roles in life which push us to learn more about ourselves. Parent. Business owner. Manager.
We are pushed by these roles to face questions such as:
- How much control do I need? Am I a micro-manager?
- Am I being clear and strong enough about what I need?
- Am I following through so I’m taken seriously?
- What mistakes can I allow?
- When a mistake happens, what have we learned?
- Could I have handled the conversation better?
- Do I get upset if they don’t do things “my way?”
As am manager, leader or parent, you may be sensing, or perhaps you’ve been told, that you need to loosen the reins a bit.
You want to teach the life skills.
Work “on” instead of “in” the details of your business.
Grow your staff so you can focus more on where you want or need to.
Or you’re flat out strapped for time and have to figure out how to share the work.
Take a few days and pay attention to how you operate. Here are some things to watch for and think about for yourself.
Solutions for you to consider and experiment with will come in the next blog.
Manage or Micro-Manage?
- Are there differences in how you manage things, depending on which ‘hat’ you are wearing ?
- Who can you definitely rely on? And not? For what reasons or types of projects or tasks (at home or at work)?
- Any ideas on where the need for control comes from?
- What would happen if you let go a little bit of something low risk?
- What’s the benefit of the micro managing?
- And what’s the cost to you? What would you do with the time you gain? Is it worth it?
- Got a mentor or person whom you admire? How does he/she manage things?
If you’d like to understand this more and work through this, try short term coaching.
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