This is not a post about how to return your holiday gifts, your white elephants, your future Yankee swap presents (with apologies to people who are not New England Yankees and don’t know what that phrase means ! ) This is a neat list about the gifts clients have shared with me over the past year, the ideas clients came up with on their own, as we collaborated during organizing or coaching meetings.
I share these ideas from our anonymous gift-givers with heart-felt respect and honor for being along on their journey.
It is solely my intention to allow these anonymous donors to share ideas which have worked for them.
“Giving frees us from the familiar territory of our own needs by opening our mind to the unexplained worlds occupied by the needs of others.”–Barbara Bush
In no particular order, the gifts list. They are all equally beautiful and useful gifts which I hope will inspire you. And I’ll have more again soon.
1. Divide up the room you want to reorganize into quadrants. Work on a quadrant at a time.
2. Receiving area: clear your receiving area first. You know how when you start sorting things into your piles? And then you feel like “But where is all of this going to GO?” The idea here is to clear out the space where you’ll eventually put the things you want to keep. Knowing this makes the sorting process easier and faster.
3. What does your house “say’ to you (before you begin the organizing process). And what do you want it to say to you after you are done?
4. Keep an ongoing list or journal. Answer the question: “I want my home to be more organized so that …” and fill in the blank with very specific, meaningful answers.
5. Getting control over her email inbox at work was analogous to this client’s weight loss program, which she had already had sustained success with. Make one decision at a time. Each meal/email is one, minute decision to make. It does not affect the next meal/email. Each one allows you to start over. It’s a discipline, one email/meal at a time. One at a time versus the whole issue.
6. “I finally realized. I need to allow people to support me. I need to involve other people to help me stick to deadlines.”
7. A client suggested a book about business Good to Great. The concept we discussed though, was not about businesses, but as human beings. Of course we can be ‘good’ at a lot of things. But what are we great at. And why. the concept gives you permission to let go — if you have too much going on or strive for perfection or for many other reasons. This concept has stuck with me as a business owner, too, as I develop my specialty areas.
8. This was a smart and curious question I still reflect on. “Why is it the rest of my home is so organized, but I can’t seem to get control over my papers? What is it about how the brain is wired that makes this so?”
9. Several clients have asked this question: Is it possible that I’m organized at work but not at home … or Are there organized vs. disorganized people? The gift is in how it’s helped me over the years to accept clients as naturally creative, resourceful and whole. Start there and work forward.
10. One book is fun to read or even a few books. A pile of books is not fun; it’s more about the guilt, negative energy, “should” read. Same object.
“To look forward and not back,
To look out and not in, and
To lend a hand.” –– Edward Everett Hale
As we open a new year, here’s hoping that we have lent you a hand on your journey.