You know you need to figure out what’s next. You know this is an opportunity, to choose your next path or chapter. But it still sounds difficult, big and overwhelming. You get stuck.
So how do you choose a “next” path? You don’t. Not yet.
You choose, with the best of your abilities at the time, a step. Just one step.
A small step feeds your soul with progress, a tiny bit of momentum which helps you start to believe that this could be possible.
If you choose a step and it feels too big, make it even smaller.
More and more, we learn that action feeds our emotions and our belief we can do something, rather than waiting until we feel ready.
Practical suggestions to get started.
How do you usually get yourself going on a task? Do you talk to someone about it? Brainstorm? Research or read about what others have done? Play music that inspires? Take a walk?
Let’s dive into that a bit more with examples so you can figure out what feels right to you.
Are you a highly verbal person? Love to talk? Enjoy language, books, socializing? Use that strength. Talk with friends, talk to yourself, talk to a voice recorder, write in your journal or gain insights with a coach; talk it through, getting the thoughts out of your head. Clarity comes for the verbal person when she lets the thoughts out of her head and captures them somewhere.
Highly visual? Draw it out. Map it out. Use a whiteboard. Create a Post-it note with one small step on each note. Now sort them out. What do you see as a next step? What`s the picture of where you want to get to? What do the steps in between here and there look like? Create at least the first and second steps; not to worry about the whole path. It will unfold.
Kinesthetic: You enjoy movement and speak with words that reflect energy and action. Where do you feel the most energy? What next step would stoke the fires? Rev up the car? Cause you to dance with great energy? Move you along the path most easily?
Cognitive strength? Do you typically read about something before starting a new project? After a limited period of research, [yes, limit yourself so you get going]…. you’ll want to ask yourself: What one next piece of information would move you forward? What do you need to know ? And then decide if you truly need to know all of that. You can only research so much before you act, because the research is not about you or your specific situation; it’s theoretical, so at some point, it needs to get put into practice in your life. Trust the process and yourself.
Highly intuitive? Create some quiet time to think and reflect. It’ll come to you but you may not be able to rush it. You’ll know the next step when you can feel it arriving. Try on different ideas of next steps or possibilities and see what resonates.
Easily move forward using your natural strengths
We all have a mixture of strengths and ways we process what’s going on around us. Use your natural strengths to get yourself unstuck so that you can take a step which gets you closer to your new path and your new chapter. [This may be useful: “20 Momentum Strategies to Combat Procrastination.“]
All of this makes choosing a path easier. Not effortless, but easier as you take one step and get comfortable with steps unfolding as you take one, and then another. You don’t need to know the big vision or the end result; time moves so fast these days that things will change along your path. Each step helps to draw down the overwhelm and get things back into perspective.
And after this time of change you’ve been going through, isn’t it about time something got a little easier and clearer?
Not sure about your approach?
I first learned to think about these modalities here.
Or do you know what your strengths are, a different approach from what I’ve written about here. VIA Character Survey is here (free).
Or Gallup’s StrengthsFinder is here (slight cost). This is not an affiliate link. These are the two strength based surveys often used in coaching as a starting point if you’re unaware of yours.