`I just keep procrastinating on that.` Okay, but the longer you sit on it, the longer it takes to get to what you really WANT to focus on. So how do we take a step forward? Here are some options for making that choice to deal with the thing you`re avoiding.
As you read this post, write down the tasks you remember you’ve procrastinated about. You may find they have something in common, which will help with your solution. As you write down when you procrastinated, think about which reason above was the main culprit. And can you recall how you eventually did get started? Once something works for you, it’s worth repeating. We often try to find a new way when we really don’t need to; go with what has worked in the past. Meanwhile, read on for some solutions to consider. And if you`re feeling brave or tired of the struggle, mark down which solutions you could experiment with.
What do we say when we`re procrastinating?
`It’s boring.` Invite a friend or colleague to work with you. Work in shorter spurts. Alternate with a more interesting activity. The idea here is that you don`t get to do the interesting work until this task is done. Usually it`s all the thinking you do about the task that makes it feel big.
`Stays on my list and just never gets done.` Create a deadline or race against time. Examples: Set your consignment shop appointment before you declutter. At work, attach this task to another project, which does have a deadline. For example, you need to check a client`s financials but there`s no real deadline. Set up a phone call to discuss this along with other items. Or use the phone call that`s already on your calendar as your deadline for this, even if it`s an unrelated topic.
`I`ve tried this before and I just can`t do it.` Well, yes, but you`re more experienced now. Life didn’t freeze. You’ve learned more at work and about yourself as you’ve reorganized at home. Maybe time needed to pass so you`d be more ready or educated about the task. Or before, you didn’t know you had ADHD. Now you do and you`re doing something about it. Talk to a colleague/friend/coach. You`ll gain encouragement, perspective and can figure out what did not work last time.
“It’s just so big; where do I start.” This usually means the project feels too big in your mind. This `too big` feeling is different for each of us and varies based on the project, too. Keep making those small steps smaller until you hear yourself say “Oh, I can do that small step.”
Fear of making the wrong decision. Talk through the scenarios or write them out. What`s the worst that might happen? What`s the best? How long have you been thinking about it? And `&. What is in between the best and worst scenarios? Most important question to answer.
A language shift helps. Start using `rough draft` to set an expectation with yourself or the person you`re sending your work to. `This is not final.` It`s written `in pencil.` `It`s my first attempt; interested in your thoughts.` Set the expectations low and move up from there.
Another approach: write up decision criteria. I created a list of questions for major business decisions. I worked on the questions with a coach, so I know the questions are well thought out. I can now relax and believe I’ve made the best decision I know how to make, at the time, with the information I had.
That`s all I can do, my best. Maybe that’s a new mantra to use and believe in.