Do you feel as if you do “everything” for “everyone?” Most of us give away more than protect our time. When a business contact calls and asks you for a meeting or when you make a doctor’s appointment, we’re usually busy or in a hurry, so we tend to look for an empty spot and slot them in. And when we then have to LIVE that day, we are exhausted. Becoming more conscious of choices and boundaries will help.
- Particularly for self-employed people, what time do you choose to start work?
- How early do you read email? Take client phone calls?
- How much time do you spend on work versus personal, during your work hours; how does that work for you? Track it a day or two. Especially if you work out of your house.
- What time would you like to leave work to get home? Barring true emergencies.
- Book no more than “your magic number” of appointments in one day. “I operate at my best, as the person I want to be when I book “x” appointments at most.”
- Do you ever disappear and get more work done? Why not do it more often for those intense, big projects; block the time and go somewhere other than your own office.
- Travel time: What is a comfortable number of driving or flying travel hours in a day?
- How late can clients reach you; what’s your “turn off” time?
Boundary Examples to Protect Your Time-@ Home
- What kind of quiet time do you take for yourself in the morning to start your day ?
- How much planned social time is comfortable for weekends, versus pure downtime. Weekends are the only restorative time we get. Be careful of how much you book into one weekend. And look at how much you have going on for the month, too.
- How many volunteer roles do you comfortably handle when you’re doing your best? And volunteer versus lead?
- What are you not doing for yourself which you keep thinking you really do want to do?
- How many weeknight evenings are you out?
- How do you share child, household, and pet duties with family members?
- How much time do you allow yourself on social media versus spending time with family or doing things around the house?
What other boundaries or limits can you think of for your work or personal life? How well are you enforcing the ones you need?
PS If you’d like support figuring out what your limits are and then also using them, please reach out for a no charge, intro call with me to see if you’d profit from working together. Sue@CoachSueWest.com or text/cell 603.765.9267