Splintered. Fractions. Dangling threads. “Shiny object syndrome.” Bits and pieces.
That’s how the days feel sometimes.
The things on our “to do” lists seem to float, not having anything to anchor them. Tasks floating on paper or on an iphone, just scrolling or floating out in air, somewhere.
Not anywhere we can DO something about them though!
The threads need to get sewn together. The puzzle pieces need to get put together. The bits and pieces need glue.
The chores at home need a purpose. The things you’re doing for your children or parents need to get done so you can spend time on the “thing” that really gets your creativity going and your joy quotient up higher. The tasks at work or in your business need a richer context, relating to why you have chosen to do the work you do.
“Engaging in meaningful activities and relationships takes no more time than engaging in meaningless ones. Putting our dreams at center stage is the only way we’re going to see them come true.”
Barbara Winter, “Winning Ways” newsletter.
It all needs to make more sense. When it does, we know why we spend our time the way we do.
We have more passion and energy. We live with purpose, and make as much of each day as we can.
Make sure it makes sense to YOU.
When I don’t understand what someone is explaining to me, I’ll say: “Hold on. I need a context. I’m a context learner. What’s the point here? What’s the big picture?”
I need to know what the tapestry is going to end up looking like before I can sew in the threads. Without it, sometimes I don’t understand the meaning of what I’m hearing – in class, in a meeting, and sometimes, with a client.
So, in this busy, splintered world, I’ll often ask questions to pull back and gain perspective. And then things either fit, are worth continuing to explore, or they clearly don’t fit on this path and need to be sidelined.
Exercise: your questions to answer.
All of this is to say that if you find yourself lost, not knowing where to start or head next, maybe you need to work on your context.
- What are you doing this task/chore/activity FOR? Why is it important? What’s the point, benefit, path you’re on and why does it matter to your life?
ecause it seems to me that we lose this purpose as we splinter our time and attention. That’s what I need to do sometimes: sew the threads back together, reglue the pieces, and create my life’s picture again at least for this chapter. Return to the reason you started doing this thing you’re doing.
And then, I’ll take quiet time to answer these questions, to pull back and look at everything I’m doing.
- What fits, does not fit, or could fit but with some conditions around it? This could work for me if …
- What do I let go of because the purpose/context is no longer important, like it once was?
- What am I missing in my time? What do I want more of?
I want to credit my inspiration for writing this post, Linda Samuels’ interview of Todd Henry, author of “Die Empty.” They talk about creativity, patterns, contextualizing and more gems. That interview is here. And look for my own comment and perspective below the article.
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