” I suppose I ‘should’ have more structure but it sounds so …. rigid and inflexible.” I hear that often or something along those lines. The question is: Do you feel as if you have enough or too much structure in your days … or is there possibly something in between?
How do you know you don’t have enough structure?
- It’s so hard to get started on your day.
- You feel you’ve lost some of your purpose.
- You have a list but you don’t actually DO the things on the list. But they’re on the list because you know you do want to do them.
- You get to the end of a day and can’t figure out where the time went or what you accomplished.
Figure out your version of “just enough” structure
- Remember that day you felt so energized? How did you structure that day?
- Compare that to a day when you felt like not moving. What was different in how you organized the day? [Link to a series on flexible time management.]
- Which days feel more productive than others? What’s different? What did you do differently?
- Talk to colleagues and ask how they structure their days [or a coach]. What sounds too rigid? What seems closer to what you could try out? What looks overwhelming versus doable?
- When do you feel like you’ve had a good, productive, useful day? Not crazy busy, over tired, but just the right amount of stuff got done? How did you do it? What kind of structure did you have to that day?
Play with the balance of structure and open time
- Experiment to feel the differences.
- Play with this balance of structure/less structured.
- Notice how you feel at the end of the day: fatigue level and how much you get done. Stress level/overwhelm level.
- This will have to change when your week is different, i.e., your spouse travels that week, family is visiting, a child is sick, etc.
P.S. We all at some point have trouble with “organizing our days.” You may be going through big life changes. Or have ADHD or something that makes this a struggle for you.
If you are curious, call or email me at 603.554.1948 Sue@CoachSueWest.com to have a 1/2 hour, no charge call.
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In coaching, when we work on a focused topic such as this, a common length of time we would work together is 2-3 months, generally twice a month, with practice in between. The practice is what makes a skill. habit, structure or system stick. Plus it helps you with insights and awareness about yourself which contribute to your success.