“Seeing our own inner strengths builds our self-confidence, provides us with courage to pursue our dreams and promotes the development of specific skills that… can provide deep satisfaction in life.”
~Dr. Thomas Armstrong, leader in the neurodiversity approach*, speaker at my recent ICD conference (Institute for Challenging Disorganization)
Here’s what I work with clients to find, which is already in themselves – their STRENGTHS. Particularly if you have ADHD and/or if you feel you could be a better “you,” but something or someone is holding you back, this is a life purpose question and important to work on.
Sound like organizing? Well, yes.
y starting with what you’re good at, even if it takes a little time to rediscover these gems you hold, we’ll end up in a place that ‘fits’ you.
The ‘place’ could be:
`” how you reorganize your home so it fits your new chapter or lifestyle (what you have in your space will fit who you are becoming, while honoring who you’ve been);
`” how you reorganize time demands and priorities, so that your time and schedule fit you more comfortably (you don’t burn out pleasing everyone else first or trying to do too much);
`” or a mindset, where your ADHD and you (or your anxiety, bipolar, depression or aging challenges) live comfortably, side by side, as friends instead of battle partners.
Sometimes, we’ve stopped believing in our strengths, because of what we hear too often, from family, friends, colleagues or in society, who say that we “should” be a different way, or our home or office “should be” more organized, or we “should“have a better memory or we “should” figure out how not to get so distracted.
We start believing all this stuff that others tell us and it becomes the skin we wear.
It’s easy and it’s slow, to get pulled into this. I’ve been there and with outside support and perspectives I pulled myself out of it. A friend recently said it’s nice to see how I’ve blossomed over time … and then she took it back! But it got better as she said, “It’s wonderful to see how you are embracing who you are.” (It was there all along, perhaps, I hope enhanced by the wisdom of experiences and slowing down.)
So – Go out there and have a great day; figure out and embrace your strengths, no matter what anyone else tells you. You’ve already got the right stuff!
I’m here if you need a first step getting there.
* ~Dr. Thomas Armstrong, writing on neurodiversity here http://institute4learning.com/ says:
“So much of what goes on in our society works to pressure people into meeting rigid expectations for behavior, learning, and development. The reality, though, is that individuals grow and learn in remarkably different ways. When we allow people to develop according to their natural rhythms, and learn in their own unique way, we make it possible for them to achieve a sense of meaning in their lives, and enable them to share their remarkable gifts with the broader culture, thus making the world a better place in which to live.”
And on brain-based challenges specifically, the website says:
“Neurodiversity: Over the past 10 years, the concept of neurodiversity has emerged from the disability community to become a major force in the understanding of individuals with brain differences, including those with autism, ADHD, dyslexia, and intellectual disabilities. Just as we speak of the benefits of biodiversity and cultural diversity, so too, we need to appreciate the strengths of those with mental health labels.”